DISAPPOINTMENT. What is it and how can I have LESS of it?
Today I experienced disappointment.
No details, of course, but new clarity, yes!
WHAT IS DISAPPOINTMENT?
When I’ve mentally and emotionally constructed a probable or “certain” outcome for a future event, I have fixed my happiness temporarily on a predicted outcome. This usually involves emotional anticipation, schedule manipulation, and logical analysis.
For example: I’ve called a group of friends and arranged to drive to the beach for a day of swimming, playing and tanning. I begin anticipating the fun we’re going to have and prepare practically for what I’ll bring. I fill my car with gas, buy snacks, get the towels ready, sunscreen, bathing suit, stereo speaker. I arrange with my friends who I’m picking up when and I figure out the driving instructions.
The next morning arrives and I look outside to see dark storm clouds … I check the forecast and discover that a huge storm is heading our way and it’s going to rain all day. I forgot to check the weather forecast!!!! (or for whatever reason) Now, it’s in this moment, that we all as humans share the same response …
Or however you say it … One thing’s for sure … it’s DISAPPOINTMENT!
My anticipated future was thwarted by an alternative outcome. Now the question is … how do I deal with it? Of course, my example above is a fairly mild example. Disappointment has multiple faces and comes in multiple degrees … but it all has the same source … a mental and emotional construction of an anticipated future that
DOES NOT HAPPEN … as expected.
5 STEPS TO HELP YOU FLOW THROUGH DISAPPOINTMENT.
1. Feel the disappointment. Curse, scream, complain, hit something, whine, etc … Let yourself be disappointed for as long as you need. This way, you are in an “allowing state” of your disappointment and it will pass sooner.
2. Find something to do to soothe yourself. Take a nap, read, drink, swim, listen to music, watch TV …
3. Begin opening your heart to what Source is flowing to you. Source is never surprised and therefore, always has something perfect to suggest … the only requirement we have for hearing this guidance, is to be in an open and allowing state.
4. Allow yourself to begin feeling better and following the new wave of inspiration. And in “waves” it comes .. there is always another wave coming in … I love how Abraham uses this analogy that someone waiting for their “ship to come in” need not worry about missing it, because there are an infinite number of ships.
5. Enjoy your new “now” reality what NOT what you had anticipated to happen, but what actually DID happen … And such is life …
In conclusion, disappointment is inevitable. We will always be anticipating future events to some degree or another, and our degree of disappointment and the time it takes us to get over it, will vary from person to person and situation to situation.
It’s important to remember that disappointment is normal, human,okay. It’s a necessary aspect of expansion. Roll with it. Allow it. Welcome it … (hmmm … well maybe not welcome) but you get the ide a…
The result of getting better at dealing with disappointment expresses itself in our ability to make plans without allowing our happiness to be drastically affected when those plans don’t pan out. And, ultimately learning to live in the moment and stay open to the magical unfolding of Source is the greatest tool available to us when it comes to disappointment.
NOW NOW NOW…
Thanks for reading … and BTW … Since releasing my disappointment from earlier today, I’m feeling great, hopeful, and so happy that this article emerged as a result. Sweet!